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Is Being Judgmental Wrong?

Judging others seems unacceptable in our ethical standards. At the same time, asking others not to judge also makes you the very thing you denied to be!

A few weeks ago, I attended my last postgraduate class. The class teacher was one of the best teachers I have had in my life so far.

I felt so indebted for her kind mentorship throughout my academic pursuit that, I kinda felt sad reminiscing a farewell. I know, being emotional at the age of 26 for some ‘classroom sentiment’ is cringe, but I couldn’t help. 

You know the feelings of graduation right!

However, just within a week, today, I felt the exact opposite feelings for my class teacher for her inconsiderate attitude.

We were attending an online exam, and my internet connection got lost for some technical issues. Although I finished my exam on time and mailed her my inconvenience, she refused to accept my script!

I was so numb and devastated – as I had put substantial effort into my exam preparation. On top of that, I couldn’t accept my favorite teacher to picture as an inconsiderate and apathetic person!

I can’t imagine myself waiting for another semester to complete my graduation.

There is nothing wrong with being depressed, we all do feel down sometimes

Okay, enough with emotion. I think we should analyze cause and effect before diving into any conclusion. Right now, it seems like I would tag her as an evil pedagog who doesn’t have any empathy for her students – which should be the prerequisite of being a teacher. But to be frank, my hatred towards her actions is further blurring my conscience.

So I decided to put on my instructor’s shoes and think the other way.

Personally, we get involved in so many trifling activities every day that we hardly consider how our actions can affect others.

For example, let us assume you are a doctor with a high moral ground. One day you were rushing to treat a critical patient, but on the way, another woman who needed immediate treatment for her son asked you to go with her. As you were pre-booked with your schedule, you humbly refused her and left for your destination.

You successfully treated your patient, whereas the poor woman lost her son.

Now how would you measure your actions based on moral and ethical grounds? And what would be the woman thinking about the doctor who refused to see her child!

As we say, you are always a villain in someone’s story. It’s quite difficult to judge a person based on her prompt action.

You never know what’s going on in another person’s life.

Happiness is contagious!

And at the same time, we can’t say whether being judgmental is right or wrong. To me, the poor woman has every right to be judgmental. On the contrary, perhaps, she is left with nothing but her curses and judgments as an ailment to her unbearable loss.

The bottom line is, telling others not to be judgmental is paradoxically a loop of being judgmental by yourself!

Location: Dhaka, Bangladesh

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